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On Human Psychology...
We must not allow other people’s limited perceptions to define us. Virginia Satir
Experience is not what happens to a man; it is what a man does with what happens to him. Annie Duke, Thinking in Bets
If there is anything we wish to change in the child, we should first examine it and see whether it is not something that could better be changed in ourselves. Carl Jung
Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on their environment and especially on their children than the un-lived life of the parent. Carl Jung
Don’t just learn, experience
Don’t just read, absorb.
Don’t just change, transform.
Don’t just relate, advocate.
Don’t just promise, prove.
Don’t just criticize, encourage.
Don’t just think, ponder.
Don’t just take, give.
Don’t just see, feel.
Don’t just dream, do.
Don’t just hear, listen.
Don’t just talk, act.
Don’t just tell, show.
Don’t just exist, live.
Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart
For most of us, though, the problem is not a lack of goals but rather too many of them. Roy F. Baumeister
When you are a pessimist and the bad thing happens, you live it twice. Once when you worry about it, and the second time when it happens. Amos Tversky Cognitive Psychologist
Most of the choices we make each day may feel like the products of well-considered decision making, but they’re not. They’re habits. Charles Duhigg
Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves. Carl Jung
A failure is not always a mistake, it may simply be the best one can do under the circumstances. The real mistake is to stop trying. B. F. Skinner
Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced. Eric Barker
No one-not rock stars, not professional athletes, not software billionaires, and not even geniuses-ever makes it alone. Malcolm Gladwell
Be yourself, everyone else is already taken. Oscar Wilde
A healthy feeling of inferiority is not something that comes from comparing oneself to others, but from one’s comparison with one’s ideal self. Ichiro Kishimi, The Courage To Be Disliked
The first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance. Nathaniel Branden
The shoe that fits one person pinches another; there is no recipe for living that suits all cases. Carl Gustav Jung, Modern Man in Search of a Soul
Every transformation demands as its precondition the ending of a world-the collapse of an old philosophy of life. Carl Jung, Man and His Symbols
We are surrounded by modern, time-saving devices, but we never seem to have enough time. Barry Schwartz
If you’re lonely when you’re alone, you’re in bad company. Jean-Paul Sartre
​You probably wouldn’t worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do! Olin Miller
The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it. It’s our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows. Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection
Whenever two people meet, there are really six people present. There is each man as he sees himself, each man as the other person sees him, and each man as he really is. James, W. 1890. The Principles of Psychology
Meanings are not determined by situations, but we determine ourselves by the meanings we give to situations. Alfred Adler, What Life Should Mean to You
Things that aren’t doing the thing:
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Preparing to do the thing isn’t doing the thing.
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Scheduling time to do the thing isn’t doing the thing.
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Making a to-do list for the thing isn’t doing the thing.
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Telling people you’re going to do the thing isn’t doing the thing.
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Messaging friends who may or may not be doing the thing isn’t doing the thing.
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Writing a banger tweet about how you’re going to do the thing isn’t doing the thing.
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Hating on yourself for not doing the thing isn’t doing the thing. Hating on other people who have done the thing isn’t doing the thing. Hating on the obstacles in the way of doing the thing isn’t doing the thing.
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Fantasizing about all of the adoration you’ll receive once you do the thing isn’t doing the thing.
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Reading about how to do the thing isn’t doing the thing. Reading about how other people did the thing isn’t doing the thing. Reading this essay isn’t doing the thing.
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The only thing that is doing the thing is doing the thing.
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